I might have found why the freewheel (and the rest of the wheel) is wobbling. I'm still searching a solution for this.....
My bike has short (not deep) dropouts - so part of the 14mm axle is standing out of dropouts. On the brake side it's not causing an issue because the washer is pressed against a plate (or a ring - not sure how to call it). But on the derailleur side the washer(s) is pressing against the freewheel - because that's the bearing housing there is an amount of slack in it. When i'm tightening everything, the washer only receives pressure from the inner side of the dropout - on the outer side there's nothing to distribute that pressure, so i'm ending up with a washer (and freewheel) with an angle.
Member Davidmnz had a similar situation (short dropouts). Here's mine.
See image attached , from left to right
1- Showing the short dropout and the way the 14mm axle fits in it.
2- Disk side where the washer is flat and at a 90 degree angle
3- Derailleur side where the washer gets a bad angle (in red) , 90 degree angle is the green line
Brake side.. washer is ''pressed'' against a solid surface, so it stays flat on it, while on the derailleur side the washer is pressed against the freewheel and it can bent a little. I need a way to set and keep the washer at 90 - maybe a thin 14mm hex nut would do the trick, as anyone get that situation. There's no place to put a plate or another tork on the inner side of the dropout as the derailleur in in the way.